Family Dialysis – 2 Tips To Have a Better Week With Your Kids

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“Emotionally Stable”    Photo by Jeremy Bishop on Unsplash

It used to be that you had to have some gray hairs on you before you felt this “rock and a hard place” feeling.  But just in case you didn’t know, this is how our typical middle schoolers are living each day.  Our young 11-13 year olds are leaving the house feeling pretty “fresh” and then somewhere between math and recess and the bus loop they look like they are hanging on by a thread.  This is in the best and worst of neighborhoods.  It has less to do with family income, status or zip code than it ever did, even though that seems to matter more than ever.  In reality it has to do with what we as moms and dads do to debrief, cleanse and reboot with our tribe everyday.

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Earlier in the year I started a Periscope® broadcast called “The Friday Night Family Scope”.   My mission was to bring families closer together in a positive way.  For many of us the weekends need to be a time of family dialysis.  We need to get inside the blood of our kids and remove the toxins.  If we don’t go into the shadows and knock on their doors, ask the right questions and find out what they are focused on, we can’t provide help.

But if your kids are anything like mine, you know that you can’t wait for Friday to make this happen.  How can we motivate and energize our kids more frequently?  How can we get inside their lives and stay in there, especially if they are moving into young adulthood?  Can a few minutes a couple of nights a week make a difference?  Yes!  We are more than chauffeurs, ATMs and short order cooks.   We do more than feed and clothe.  We do even more than teach and keep them safe.  In just a few minutes devoted parents can do pivotal things.    We help our children thrive in a scary world.  And we gotta jump in and do a little very day.  

2 Quick & Easy Tips:

  •  Listen More Than You Lecture.  If you are guilty of this, raise your hand.  Come on!  Raise it up right at your desk or in your kitchen or at the gym.  I know you are out there.  Join us.  My hand is raised too!  One is markedly easy.  The other is definitely hard.  But if you can get a tween or teen to talk to you, even if what they are saying is making you want to scream at the top of your lungs, try to listen.  Yes, sometimes the story seems like a web that is wrapped upon itself and you want to jump in and untangle it.  I know…I’ve been there…in fact, I visited that familiar destination earlier today.  In the midst though, it hit me that I needed to assign dignity to this young adult that is so much like…well, me!  And a lecture wasn’t going to cut it.  What about you?  Can you use your ears first this week?
  • Let Acknowledgement Be Your First Words.  I keep thinking that after I speak I love to know that someone was actually listening to me.  The same is true for our kids; listening is only half the battle.  The other half is letting them know that we heard  them.  Extract something to show that you acknowledge they have been willing to share.  “I know what you mean”, doesn’t carry as much weight as “Man,  that sounds awful!  I’m sorry that you had to face that.” (Or whatever similar matches your tribe).  It’s not easy for our kids to open up.  If they do, don’t waste the opportunity.  Acknowledge them, their feelings and what they have to say.  It’s worth it.
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So many of our precious kids are at pressure’s edge.  The waves keep coming and they are aren’t dressed for swimming.   If we are going to make a difference we are going to have to dive in deep.

To encourage my readers and add value to the family, I’m introducing a monthly blog series called:  Family Dialysis.  The goal will be to chat about ways to get closer as a family and ensure that parents are the major influencers to a positive future.  Let me know what you’d like to see.  I’m excited to share with you!

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Autumn is The New Black: How to Get A Glowing Fresh Start!

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Autumn is the new black.  It’s when people start over.  Especially women.  We used to wait for January.  Nope.  No more.  Something about the end of the year and all that cold, or time off, or extra food and visiting family, or maybe it’s just the extra food…not sure.  But now we make the new things happen, manifest the big ideas and get going as soon as the kids go back to school.  They start over with new binders and backpacks and we grab a new slate, new goals, new missions and visions, piled right in the cart of back to school goodies.

And that is one of the key reasons that Autumn is the new black.  Everyone loves black.  It’s monochromatic.  Goes with everything.  And it’s slimming to the eyes.  Can it get better?!  In my independent Mary Kay business, October is the time of retreats, renewal and the rejuvenation of goals.  We train and hone our craft to be the individual best that we can.  We pamper more women this time of year. A whole lot more!  Of course, since it’s a business it appears all about money.  But it’s so much more than that.  Women need a fresh start.  Ladies are longing for a glow that extends beyond summer.  What are going to do for your refresh?

Corporate warriors, stay-at-home/work-at-home moms and A-list ladies alike all start buckling back down to super busy schedules in the fall.  Early morning boot camp, breakfast and lunch fixings, carpool loop, commuter buses and trains, and long days of meetings, clients, children and endless doing keep us from taking a few extra minutes.  And no – you are not to blame!  There are so few extra minutes to be found!!  But find them you must.

There is no longer a need to wait to set resolutions in January.  It’s far too common.  You are extraordinary so do your life like you know it!  The warm but shorter days are a wonderful impetus for getting down, and getting it done.  And when it comes to your caring for your skin, reviving your look, or just taking a 3 minute spa-break twice a day to wash your face, there is no beIMG_0951tter time than the present.

Of course I am a strong advocate for Mary Kay.  Our 4-piece Miracle Set includes 11 age-fighting benefits your skin needs to thrive in the harsh environments that we live in these days. However, whatever choice you make here are 3 tips to help you with your Autumnal Fresh Start!

 

3 Quick Tips to A Skincare Fresh Start Right Now!

  1. Use products from the same company or product line.  From super expensive to the cheapest brands, there is science behind what you put on your skin.  If you use the same company for everything you greatly reduce the risk of adverse reactions.
  2. Don’t skip night cleansing.  The busier you get, the easier it is to grab acloth and wipe your face with water.  Don’t do it!  The end of the day is the MOST IMPORTANT for skincare and prevention of issues.
  3. Got skin?  Use Sunscreen.  Unless you are totally allergic or live in a cave, you really want to protect your skin each day.  Since you are covered up in the fall and winter you may not need it all over your body.  But your lovely face?  It’s out there for the world to see, so protect it!

Go ahead and get yourself positively ready for an Awesome Autumn and fall into winter (get the joke!) feeling fabulous.  Your personal fresh start – starts with you!

 

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Ready to get your personal glow and fresh start for Autumn?  I can help a complimentary consultation and recommendations of which Mary Kay products would be best for you.  I can work with anyone in the US who has no current consultant.  Technology takes care of distance, and shipping takes care of delivery.  I have you covered!  You can reach out to me for more information at chatonemorrison@marykay.com.

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Vision Through Any Size Window

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For many of us, Vision is a strength.  We see with wide eyes.  Positive eyes.  For others vision is a struggle because distractions of other people’s views get in the way.  How about you? How is your vision?

One of the reasons I love coaching and being coached, is the way it opens eyes.  Eyes without possibility suddenly see (pun intended) what could be.   So many times, right up until the time when you are ready to hit “Go”, vision is in place.  You are flying a private jet.  The view is wide open, the window is huge and clear.  Then one thing or another happens.  Clouded by fear, indecision or feeling cramped by too many other opinions, even if it’s the last thing you want to happen, the window shrinks and vision fades.

The irony is when starting something new, vision is possible through any size window.  Even when no one can see our big idea, it’s clear to us.  Adversity and fear shrinks the window.  As the size of the window shrinks, so does the vision.  In reality, if you have the nerve to start scared, but invincible you can finish the same way.   Here’s two quick ways to do it:

  1.  Find your tribe!  Who is your tribe?  Like-minded, similarly focused folks who “get you”.  It doesn’t mean they are into the exact same thing necessarily.  It just means they will allow you to have your vision.  They will refuse to allow you to shrink because the target is far away.  In the picture above the window is small.  Seeing anything is going to be hard.  But the realities outside are exactly the same size!  So find a tribe who will keep you accountable for looking straight ahead even when the distance between you and your goal is still far away.
  2. Be Authentic!  This is more than just a Princess of Positivity® platitude.  Being Authentic is real and it will keep your vision alive!  Along the way to reach what you want so much fear is involved. Couple that with the naysayers and dream-slayers, and the tendency to say everything is, “Fine” is simply to tempting and seems harmless.  Of course nothing could be farther from true.   It will keep you from moving forward.  Because when you lie about your progress, or tell the truth about your progress, and then lie about how you feel about it, your tribe cannot help you.  They won’t even know you need it.

If you are wanting a stronger and more positive vision, you can also write down your vision statement, keep it with you and recite it repeatedly until you are comfortable.  Or you can make a vision board and interact with it until you embrace it as truth.   It might take a moment to change your mindset, but once you do, you get to play a bigger game with your ultimate vision.  Deciding is more than half the battle!

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Any Size Window – Poetry By Chatone Morrison

Super big vision.
Big ideas. Yet,
Packing big suitcases. 
Full of fear.

 

Shaking head silence.
Choices are few.
Thoughts seem distant, old and un-new.  

Shake them off?  

Pretend them away?  
Face them head on or they stay and stay and stay.
Where is the vision?  
Where did it go?  
Brought down with arrows, night clubs and bows? 
When with-in seems empty, and with-out is a shame.
When you give up or give out just “I” will be blamed.
When Perseverance is a memory of your distant days
Packed in the cases of your younger self’s ways
Go in again with
A different approach. 
Go in again with
A brand new way.
Step out on the field. 
And into the sun. 
Go for the run where giants play. 
Your vision is present
On the field and on the plane.  
Fear is a friend
A guidepost to glow.
You are more than enough
To play a huge game
And your vision is clear through any size window.

 

Chatone Morrison ©2017

Ready to get your positive energy in check?  Looking to clean up your self-talk, create a personal affirmation plan or ease your way into releasing your negativity so your positivity can reign?  Complete the questionnaire for a free coaching strategy session.

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