Nothing Compares To You

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NOTHING COMPARES TO YOU…BELIEVE IT!

When is the last time you felt that nothing compared to you?  You know that feeling when you are “sitting pretty” without even trying?  When you are in the midst of the best you, doing the things that make you feel great from the inside out?  If it has been a while, this blog is just for you.  If you can’t remember when,  you may have fallen victim to someone else’s hype. If you can’t remember,  it’s  been way too long.  

Guess what?   Contrary  to popular belief…nothing compares to you.   It wouldn’t sting so badly if this statement weren’t true.  But it is true.  Your specialness precedes you, even when you don’t see it.

Why You Don’t See It

You don’t see where you don’t look.  As women we are oftentimes looking for the good in everyone around us.  It becomes our singular job to uplift, empower, encourage and nurture.  The family, the job, the school, where we volunteer, all get our best.  They may or may not give us compensatory thanks.  We are literally living our specialness and giving it away simultaneously, so much so that we personally miss it altogether.  Search.  Look deeper.  It’s still there.

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Your standards of  “best you” are not quite right.  you using to compare your Have you ever looked in a old,  cloudy or cracked mirror?  How did you look?  Even if you could make out all your features, would you trust that mirror to put on your makeup?  Do your hair for an evening out?  Dress yourself?  What might the chances be for you to make an error in judgement and totally miss it?  Fairly high, right?  

How often are your standards set by you instead of strangers?   When an important path is set by someone who doesn’t know how unique and lovely you are, you will never feel that you measure up.  Period.  Take a look at your mirror.  If it can be cleaned up, do it.  If it needs replacing, throw it away and start again.

La, La, La…I Can’t Hear You!

Sound like a child you know?  This is a fan favorite with small children.  They tune out cellphone-andrik-langfield-petrides-348253what they don’t want to hear.  Have you taken on this childlike behavior?  Is it wrecking havoc on your self-esteem and confidence?  You can get so busy hearing what people you don’t know are whispering to you that you don’t hear what those who know and love you are screaming.  This social media monster is in a constant chase for our hearts.  It’s a necessary evil that can replace the human interaction in our lives if we let it.  Next stop?  No longer listening to important people who know you, love you, understand where you have been and where you are going.  Hand over ears and eyes, you make others out to be wrong; no longer believing the truth.  It’s gradual and insidious and happens way too often! It’s annoying when kids do it.  (Newsflash:  It’s annoying when adults do it too!)

What Can You Do?

  1. If you nurture others; nurture yourself too.  Give away some of your best self, and keep some for yourself.  It’s easier said than done, so practice is needed.  
  2. Take a good look at your mirror.  If the standards you are working with no longer fit you make a change.  Evolve them. Remove them.  You will not stay the same woman, especially as you gain more life experience (age/wisdom, etc).  Expect the metamorphosis and accept it for what it is . . . Something Wonderful. 
  3. Unless you are a very tall, feathery and fast bird running on the plain, you can no longer use ostrich-like habits to excuse away who you are.  Rejecting reality does not change it.  When others acknowledge you, it is a blessing.  Develop your listening and appreciation skills.  Very few people have the desire to flatter you for no reason.  Listen.  You just might hear something great.

The late artist Prince said it best:  Nothing compares to you.   However, if you don’t allow yourself to go to your own party, the party will go on without you.  Since it’s being thrown in your honor, you might as well enjoy it.  

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Vision Through Any Size Window

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For many of us, Vision is a strength.  We see with wide eyes.  Positive eyes.  For others vision is a struggle because distractions of other people’s views get in the way.  How about you? How is your vision?

One of the reasons I love coaching and being coached, is the way it opens eyes.  Eyes without possibility suddenly see (pun intended) what could be.   So many times, right up until the time when you are ready to hit “Go”, vision is in place.  You are flying a private jet.  The view is wide open, the window is huge and clear.  Then one thing or another happens.  Clouded by fear, indecision or feeling cramped by too many other opinions, even if it’s the last thing you want to happen, the window shrinks and vision fades.

The irony is when starting something new, vision is possible through any size window.  Even when no one can see our big idea, it’s clear to us.  Adversity and fear shrinks the window.  As the size of the window shrinks, so does the vision.  In reality, if you have the nerve to start scared, but invincible you can finish the same way.   Here’s two quick ways to do it:

  1.  Find your tribe!  Who is your tribe?  Like-minded, similarly focused folks who “get you”.  It doesn’t mean they are into the exact same thing necessarily.  It just means they will allow you to have your vision.  They will refuse to allow you to shrink because the target is far away.  In the picture above the window is small.  Seeing anything is going to be hard.  But the realities outside are exactly the same size!  So find a tribe who will keep you accountable for looking straight ahead even when the distance between you and your goal is still far away.
  2. Be Authentic!  This is more than just a Princess of Positivity® platitude.  Being Authentic is real and it will keep your vision alive!  Along the way to reach what you want so much fear is involved. Couple that with the naysayers and dream-slayers, and the tendency to say everything is, “Fine” is simply to tempting and seems harmless.  Of course nothing could be farther from true.   It will keep you from moving forward.  Because when you lie about your progress, or tell the truth about your progress, and then lie about how you feel about it, your tribe cannot help you.  They won’t even know you need it.

If you are wanting a stronger and more positive vision, you can also write down your vision statement, keep it with you and recite it repeatedly until you are comfortable.  Or you can make a vision board and interact with it until you embrace it as truth.   It might take a moment to change your mindset, but once you do, you get to play a bigger game with your ultimate vision.  Deciding is more than half the battle!

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Any Size Window – Poetry By Chatone Morrison

Super big vision.
Big ideas. Yet,
Packing big suitcases. 
Full of fear.

 

Shaking head silence.
Choices are few.
Thoughts seem distant, old and un-new.  

Shake them off?  

Pretend them away?  
Face them head on or they stay and stay and stay.
Where is the vision?  
Where did it go?  
Brought down with arrows, night clubs and bows? 
When with-in seems empty, and with-out is a shame.
When you give up or give out just “I” will be blamed.
When Perseverance is a memory of your distant days
Packed in the cases of your younger self’s ways
Go in again with
A different approach. 
Go in again with
A brand new way.
Step out on the field. 
And into the sun. 
Go for the run where giants play. 
Your vision is present
On the field and on the plane.  
Fear is a friend
A guidepost to glow.
You are more than enough
To play a huge game
And your vision is clear through any size window.

 

Chatone Morrison ©2017

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