The painters came today. Again. They are neat. Tidy. They don’t play obnoxious music while they work. They don’t even whistle. They don’t curse or say misogynistic things to Katelin (my 14-year-old daughter). They don’t leave food wrappers in the house or outside on the lawn. They are great. Really, really great.
The problem is there is a film of dust all over the house. Despite the terribly noisy vacuum that is supposed to make the paint and dust spores disappear into the thin air…which is totally ironic because the air is so thick with dust it’s completely impossible to see if it’s even working! But they are nice guys. And they are neat. I’m supposed to be happy.
Here’s the thing. I can’t cook. There is a 6 foot tall silk Ficus tree in my kitchen. Oh, and the recliner, and the loveseat and my latest Mary Kay inventory boxes, and a science experiment, and 3 lamps. The kitchen table is up against the island, the island is covered in the same film described above and did I mention there is no dinner?!
Junior is running through the house sliding on the dust residue, in between itching, seems to have an allergic reaction to not being able to breathe…go figure. And my girl is rolling her eyes so far into her head she just might be blind and no one told me. The noise from the scraping and the vacuum and the ladders and 6 dudes, is deafening. I cannot hear my thoughts. In fact I might be slipping into the realm of the brain dead. (OK, that might be over the top…but you know what I’m saying!)
Days like this come and we moms can sink into the pit of despair. Little triggers all over the house and even though we are rocking it out, suddenly we don’t see it. Suddenly eating a box of chocolate ice cream or a huge pot of spaghetti straight from the pot seems like a good idea. But don’t do it. Don’t believe the hype. There is a better way.
- Go Outside – It’s fall here in Maryland and the days are super crisp and pretty. If it’s crazy inside, go outside! That’s simple right? Duh…why didn’t you think of it? You did! You just didn’t do it. We always know what we should do. We are smart women. Of course we know. The problem is we don’t act. We substitute a logical action for an intuitive one. When it’s crazy inside, follow your gut. Go Outside!
- Count – Yep. Just count. There is some neuroscience behind this one…but I don’t want to overwhelm you with my amazing expertise. (ha ha) Suffice it to say it’s like having your brain go outside for a moment. The counting helps you redirect. Center. Get out of the crazy for just a moment. Then you can focus on doing what you need.
- Just One Thing – Well the fun can’t last forever. After you clear your mind outside; then center your focus to unclutter your thoughts, it’s time to find one thing that will make a difference. Perhaps that’s clearing off just one counter. Or picking up the socks on the couch. Or making a salad for dinner. Or calling one client to do a little service check. Or following up on one hot email. It doesn’t really matter what you choose. Just choose a good one so that you can feel the sense of accomplishment.
Honestly girlfriend, in the midst of the madness…in the middle of whatever crazy you have going on, just go with the simplest strategy to help you get through. You already know that this day too shall pass. Being graceful and easy on yourself as it does, is priceless.
Rock On Ladies!
Chatone Morrison – 11/16/2016
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